My daughter was born first thing in the morning. After 18 hours of labor and an hour and a half of pushing there she was! Out in this crazy world, no longer protected by her mommy shield. As she began to cry I could physically feel my heart filling up with so much Love. You really can't explain that feeling, but all moms know it! A whole new level of love only a mom could feel! She was beautiful! The most beautiful thing I had ever seen In my lifetime. All I wanted was her to be happy and healthy in life. I wanted her to have everything she ever needed. I wanted to be her protector as I was when she was in the womb. We brought her home and I was so scared! Every little sound she made or cough I would panic and pick her up! She slept on my chest for the first month so I could hear her breathing and feel her heart beat. I was totally freaked out by (S.I.D.S)! She was growing at the normal rate and was healthy besides having colic (which made for some sleepless nights) but all in all a healthy child. My daughter didn't really crawl, she was content with the toys I put in front of her and didn't have the need to go anywhere. She started walking a little later than the toddlers in her playgroups, but again she was just very content with where she was and never very outgoing.
I called her pediatrician the next day to set up an appointment. We went in to her pediatrician, they asked why she was there. I told them about her being mute outside the home and I believed she had selective mutism. For the next twenty minutes that darn doctor tried everything to get my daughter to talk to her! Putting someone with selective mutism on the spot to talk is the #1 thing you ARE NOT suppose to do! The person closes up more and climbs deeper inside their shell. The pediatrician recommended I send her to see her personal therapist. This was not good enough for me, I wanted someone who specialized in Selective Mutism and knew how to interact with my daughter. I knew a regular therapist was not going to work because my daughter does not talk outside my home! I searched and searched the Internet and found nothing! Finally I found there was a doctor in another state, which I was considering traveling a couple times a month if this was going to give my daughter a quality life. After weeks of research I had finally found a medical group in Scottsdale, AZ that had Selective Mutism on their list of specialties!! I made my daughter an appointment! My daughter has been seeing her doctor there for about a year now and I am happy to report, people have now heard her voice! The doctors were able to break her silence and I am forever grateful! My daughter has attended a junior high dance, is in an after school art club, and hosted her first sleepover! She has come a long way, but still has a way to go. Do I think selective mutism is treatable? Absolutely! Curable? Only time will tell.
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